Verna Haywood

The First Health & Wellness Coach

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ABUSE

Domestic Violence and Abuse

Domestic Violence and Abuse: You Are Not Alone

As a domestic abuse survivor, I understand the pain, fear, and confusion you may feel. Abuse has a way of breaking down your spirit, but I want you to know there is hope. You are not alone, and you deserve to live a life free from harm. I am here to help you navigate this difficult time and support you on your journey to safety, healing, and empowerment.

Abuse is never your fault, and it is never acceptable. Whether you are experiencing abuse yourself or are concerned for someone you know, there are steps you can take to protect yourself and find the support you need.

Recognising the Signs of Domestic Abuse

Abuse comes in many forms, and it is not always easy to recognise, especially when it happens over time. It’s important to trust yourself and your feelings. If something feels wrong, it likely is. Some common forms of abuse include:

  • Physical Abuse: Hitting, slapping, or other forms of physical harm intended to cause injury or pain.
  • Emotional Abuse: Insults, threats, humiliation, or manipulation that undermine your self-worth and cause lasting emotional harm.
  • Financial Abuse: Controlling your access to money, preventing you from gaining financial independence, or using finances as a tool for power and control.
  • Sexual Abuse: Forcing you into sexual activities without your consent, which is a violation of your autonomy and safety.
  • Coercive Control: A pattern of behavior designed to manipulate, dominate, and isolate you from others, restricting your freedom and independence.

If any of these resonate with you, please trust your instincts. Abuse thrives in silence, but you have the right to speak up and seek help. There are safe ways to escape, and there is a life waiting for you beyond the pain. Reaching out for support is the first step toward healing, and there are people who care and resources available to help you rebuild your life.

You are not to blame for the abuse you’ve experienced, and you are stronger than you realize.

Steps to Get Help

Domestic Abuse Resources (UK)

  1. National Domestic Violence Helpline
    Website: www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk
    Phone: 0808 2000 247
    Details: Provides confidential support for those experiencing domestic abuse, including advice and refuge services.
  2. Women’s Aid
    Website: www.womensaid.org.uk
    Phone: 0808 2000 247
    Details: Offers support and resources for women experiencing domestic abuse. Includes an online chat service.
  3. Refuge
    Website: www.refuge.org.uk
    Phone: 0808 2000 247
    Details: Provides support, information, and accommodation for women and children escaping domestic violence.
  4. NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children)
    Website: www.nspcc.org.uk
    Phone: 0808 800 5000
    Details: Offers support and resources for children and young people who are experiencing abuse or need help.
  5. Men’s Advice Line
    Website: www.mensadviceline.org.uk
    Phone: 0808 801 0327
    Details: Provides support for men experiencing domestic abuse.

General Support Resources (UK)

  1. Samaritans
    Website: www.samaritans.org
    Phone: 116 123
    Details: Offers confidential support for anyone in emotional distress or crisis.
  2. Citizens Advice
    Website: www.citizensadvice.org.uk
    Phone: 0800 144 8848
    Details: Provides free, confidential advice on a range of issues, including domestic abuse and health concerns.

Domestic Abuse Resources(USA)

  1. National Domestic Violence Hotline
    Website: www.thehotline.org
    Phone: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
    Text: Text “START” to 88788
    Details: Provides confidential support, resources, and information for those experiencing domestic abuse.
  2. RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)
    Website: www.rainn.org
    Phone: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
    Details: Offers support for survivors of sexual violence, including a confidential online chat service.
  3. National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
    Website: www.ncadv.org
    Phone: 1-800-799-7233
    Details: Provides advocacy, resources, and information on preventing and addressing domestic violence.
  4. DomesticShelters.org
    Website: www.domesticshelters.org
    Phone: 1-800-799-7233
    Details: Offers a searchable database of domestic violence shelters and services across the U.S.

General Support Resources (USA)

  1. Mental Health America
    Website: www.mhanational.org
    Phone: 1-800-969-6642
    Details: Provides mental health resources and support for various issues related to abuse and trauma.

211 (United Way)
Website: www.211.org
Phone: 211
Details: Connects individuals with local health, housing, and emergency services resources

Steps to Get Help

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  • Australia 🇦🇺
  • Puerto Rico 🇵🇷

Domestic Abuse Resources

National Domestic
Violence Helpline
www.thehotline.org
0808 2000 247
Provides confidential support for those experiencing domestic abuse, including advice and refuge services.
Women’s Aid
www.womensaid.org.uk
0808 2000 247
Offers support and resources for women experiencing domestic abuse. Includes an online chat service.
Refuge
www.refuge.org.uk
0808 2000 247
Provides support, information, and accommodation for women and children escaping domestic violence.
NSPCC
www.nspcc.org.uk
0808 800 5000
Offers support and resources for children and young people who are experiencing abuse or need help.
Men’s Advice Line

Provides support for men experiencing domestic abuse.

General Support Resources

Samaritans

Offers confidential support for anyone in emotional distress or crisis.

Citizens Advice
Provides free, confidential advice on a range of issues, including domestic abuse and health concerns.

Domestic Abuse Resources

National Domestic
Violence Helpline
www.thehotline.org
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Provides confidential support, resources, and information for those experiencing domestic abuse.
RAINN
www.rainn.org
1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
Offers support for survivors of sexual violence, including a confidential online chat service.
National Coalition Against Violence
www.ncadv.org
1-800-799-7233
Provides advocacy, resources, and information on preventing and addressing domestic violence.
DomesticShelters.org
Offers a searchable database of domestic violence shelters and services across the U.S.

General Support Resources

Mental Health America
www.mhanational.org
1-800-969-6642
Provides mental health resources and support for various issues related to abuse and trauma.
211 (United Way)
www.211.org 0800 144 8848
Connects individuals with local health, housing, and emergency services resources

Domestic Abuse Resources

Gender-Based Violence Command Centre
www.justice.gov.za
0800 150 150
Available 24/7 for crisis support, reporting abuse, and referrals to shelters and social services.
GBV National Command Centre
www.gov.za
Dial: *120*7867#
Free “please call me” service for discreet access to help.
National Counselling Line
www.sadag.org
0861 322 322
Emotional support and counselling for survivors of abuse.
Childline South Africa
Free, 24-hour counselling for children, youth, and anyone concerned about child abuse or family violence.
LifeLine South Arica
www.lifelinesa.co.za
0861 322 322
Lifeline operates a 24-hour telephone counselling line that is both anonymous and confidential, providing support for various mental health challenges.

General Support Resources

South African Police Services
10111
If you are in immediate danger, contact the South African Police Services

Domestic Abuse Resources

1800RESPECT
www.justice.gov.za
1800 737 732
Free, confidential counselling available 24/7 for domestic, family, and sexual violence. Phone, chat, text, and video options are available.
Lifeline Australia
24/7 crisis support for emotional distress and safety concerns.
Full Stop Australia
fullstop.org.au
1800 385 578

Specialist counselling and support for survivors of sexual, domestic, and family violence.

MensLine Australia
www.mensline.org.au
1300 789 978
Support for men experiencing relationship distress or seeking help to stop using violence.

Domestic Abuse Resources

Centro de Apoyo a Víctimas de Violación
www.salud.pr.gov
+1 787 765 2285
24/7 confidential crisis support, counselling, advocacy, and referrals for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault across Puerto Rico.
Office of the Women’s Advocate
www.mujer.pr.gov
+1 787 722 2977
Confidential emotional support, guidance, and referrals for women experiencing abuse.
Tu Paz Cuenta – Gender Violence
www.tallersalud.com
+1 787 697 1120

Support for women, elderly individuals, and families affected by Gender-Based Violence.

Proyecto Matria
www.proyectomatria.org
+1 787 489 0022

Support, advocacy, and resources for survivors of domestic and gender-based violence, including LGBTQI+ individuals.

Quest For Wellness After Experiencing Trauma

Recognising the Signs of Domestic Abuse

I want to remind you that life after abuse is possible. As a survivor myself, I understand how daunting it can be to take the first step. But with the right support, you can regain your strength, find your voice, and reclaim your life.

You are stronger than you know, and help is always available. Together, we can find a way forward.

If you’d like to connect with me directly for support or guidance, please don’t hesitate to reach out. You are not alone on this journey.

With Verna Haywood

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Domestic Violence and Human Trafficking are in opposition to the creator’s plan for families. Anyone can experience Sexual and Domestic Abuse. Research shows more women and young girls than men and boys experience domestic abuse and more women and girls will be killed. No one person should manipulate and control you or anyone you know.

Combining her health and wellness experiences and what she learned as a child, Verna uses the nine leading lights of health and wellness to Reflect, Revitalise and Renew men and omen to enable them to live a life of wholeness. Verna has a BSc degree in International Spa Management and uses methods to combine a wholistic approach to re-establish harmony between body, mind and soul. It draws on the principles she learnt using seasonal produce to feed, sustain and medicate to ensure a healthy, balanced life.

Domestic Violence and Abuse: You Are Not Alone

If you or anyone else is in a domestic violence situation they should do everything possible to get out safely. To speak to someone if you are worried about someone you know may be experiencing abuse and do not want anyone to know click on this link

You can also find further information and support here

NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE

Hotline: 1 (800) 799 – 7233
Available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week via phone and online chat.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline (The Hotline) is available for anyone experiencing domestic violence, seeking resources or information, or questioning unhealthy aspects of their relationship.

VRC - Victim Resource Centre

Domestic violence is used to gain power and control in a relationship. Usually, it is perpetrated by a partner or family member and can impact an entire community.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND SEXUAL ABUSE